Wednesday, August 7, 2019

Can You Forgive Her? by Anthony Trollope


Source of book: I own this.

Regular readers of my blog know that my favorite Victorian author is Anthony Trollope. I try to read one of his books every year. Past reads since I started writing about them are:

Barsetshire Chronicles:

The Barchester Chronicles (BBC miniseries based on the first two books, The Warden and Barchester Towers)

Other books:


These are not, of course, the only Trollope novels I have read. These are the ones I have read since I started blogging in 2010. I should mention Castle Richmond and The Bertrams as particularly excellent books.

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Having finished the Barsetshire books, I am now starting the Palliser novels. I didn’t know entirely what to expect. After all, most Trollope novels are about some combination of marriage and property, usually both together. Politics can enter into the book, but it is rarely the focus. So far, at least, this series follows the same pattern, even though there is definitely a political component to the plot. 

After my disappointment in Orley Farm, it was good to find that Can You Forgive Her? was a thoroughly enjoyable read, with the nuanced and human characters I was used to. As in the best of Trollope’s works, the heroes are flawed and villains are sympathetic, and people are deeply human, and thus universal despite the specifics of their circumstances. 

Trollope was a conservative, in the traditional sense. (Not in the reactionary and racist sense that today’s Right Wing represents - think Edmund Burke, not Steve Bannon.) He supported maintaining tradition, including the institutions and cultural preferences of his time and place, even as change enveloped him along with the rest of England. 

Because of this, he wasn’t a feminist by any stretch. That much should be said at the outset. I believe this understanding is crucial, because this book centers on some sticky questions of female autonomy, and love versus duty. So, Trollope clearly believes women should forgo following their flighty hearts, and instead choose safe and socially acceptable men. And he seems rather skeptical of the idea that young women can be trusted to make their own decisions without “guidance” from their men and elderly female relatives.

That said, the problem for Trollope is that he is far too good and perceptive a writer to avoid undermining his own personal beliefs by his sympathetic exploration of the minds of his characters. For this reason, the female characters are the most fascinating in this book - and they are the ones that are easy to identify with. Not that the men are uninteresting, but the women are central to the book, and to the questions Trollope grapples with over the course of the book. 

As might be expected in an era when authors were paid by the word, this book is long - 850+ pages in my Oxford edition. This format suits Trollope, as he likes to explore the thoughts of his characters at a leisurely pace, and examine things from multiple points of view. The length also allows Trollope to create three main parallel relationships, each of which is in some way a love triangle, to examine the questions of love and money and respectability. 

The central character is Alice Vavasor, a young woman torn between two men. She has a small income, so she doesn’t have to marry, but she is under a lot of pressure to do so. It is questionable whether she actually loves either of the two men, which is why she ends up doing the socially unforgivable. Her first crush, so to speak, is on her cousin George, who is a bit disreputable and seemingly unable to make good financial decisions. They were once engaged, but George threw her over to pursue an heiress. This didn’t work, so he is now back to pursuing Alice. She, in the meantime, has become engaged to John Grey, who is wealthy and very respectable, but also bland and unambitious. But she has cold feet and breaks up with Grey. Most of the book explores her feelings and determination to marry (if at all) because she wants to, not because of social pressures. 

Not helping matters at all is George’s sister Kate, who seems to have an unhealthy crush on her brother, even though he is rather abusive to her. She would squander her own fortune if she could, to give him what he wants. 

George, in turn, isn’t a truly evil man, although he gives in to his dark side more and more as the book progresses, until he does things he swore he would never do, and follows a dark path from which there is no easy escape. 

The second woman involved in complicated relationships is Alice’s more distant cousin Glencora. Originally, Glencora wanted to marry the dashing (and rakish) Burgo Fitzgerald, and almost did. But her family prevented the match, and practically forced her to marry Plantagenet Palliser, the rising politician and likely heir of the Duke of Omnium. 

Plantagenet, despite his unfortunate name, is not a bad man. But he is unaffectionate, a workaholic, and absolutely hapless when it comes to Glencora. Clearly, he needed more training in interpersonal relationships outside of politics, because he is laughable. Glencora finds him beyond disappointing, naturally, and she resents that she was forced to marry him. She comes close to running off with Fitzgerald, but realizes at the last that she can’t do it. 

These two complicated relationships intertwine, because Alice becomes Glencora’s confidant, and sees her own (potential) future with Grey in light of Glencora’s unhappy marriage. 

The third plot is largely comic relief - but because this is Trollope, it is more than that. Alice and Kate’s aunt married a wealthy old man, and was left a young wealthy widow. She puts on a good show of missing him, but is ready to marry for love (or something like it) this time. She is courted by the hilarious Mr. Cheeseacre, a wealthy farmer hoping to bring even more wealth into the fold. But also interested is Captain Bellfield, who has the social graces Cheeseacre lacks, even if he hasn’t a dime to his name. Aunt Greenow naturally prefers the captain, but plays the two of them off each other to great comic effect. Meanwhile, she hopes to get Cheesacre to marry either Kate (neither of them is interested) or the impoverished yet genteel Charlie Fairstairs. 

So much for the love. How about the politics? 

Mr. Palliser is a member of Parliament, but aspires to climb. He appears to be next in line to become the Chancellor of the Exchequer. Meanwhile, George wishes to enter Parliament, but lacking a safe borough, a wealthy sponsor, or a fortune of his own, must buy his way in as best he can - with whatever money he can talk people out of. While Glencora has zero interest in politics, Alice is fairly knowledgeable and would prefer her husband (whoever he be) to be a part of that world. In fact, that is part of her issue with Mr. Grey. He would be happy to live on his isolated rural estate, and read his books. She would prefer to be in London, and be part of city life and society. But, he is the man, and her job is to support his ambitions - or lack thereof, right?

As with most Trollope novels, the ending isn’t much of a surprise. The plot isn’t really the point, after all. The fun comes with the psychology, with the human drama and personalities reacting to circumstance in line with their characters. 

There are some particularly good lines in this book, a few of which caught my eye. 

The first comes early in the book, when Alice breaks it off with John Grey. Again, Trollope personally supports this match, but his honesty sees the problems with it.

She could not bring herself to hint to him that his views of life were so unlike her own, that there could be no chance of happiness between them, unless each could strive to lean somewhat towards the other. No man could be more gracious in word and manner than John Grey; no man more chivalrous in his carriage towards a woman; but he always spoke and acted as though there could be no question that his manner of life was to be adopted, without a word or thought of doubting, by his wife. When two came together, why should not each yield something, and each claim something? This she had meant to say to him on this day; but now that he was with her she could not say it.

This is just a fantastic passage. One of the reasons my wife did not expect to marry was this very issue. If she was expected to give up her wishes to suit a man’s preferences, she wasn’t interested. Alice is fully justified in her wish to have each spouse compromise, and find common ground. That’s how good marriages work, and why people who have differences (meaning any two people, really) are able to have good relationships. To use a personal example, my wife doesn’t camp with me, but we have a cat. We both have compromised. And we both have gained. 

Another passage illuminated to me why I disliked George. (There were many reasons, even though he was understandable in many ways as well. Another of Trollope’s nuanced villains.) In dissing mountain climbers, George says:

“They rob the mountains of their poetry, which is or should be their greatest charm. Mont Blanc can have no mystery for a man who has been up it a half a dozen times. It’s like getting behind the scenes at a ballet, or making a conjuror explain his tricks.”

Boooo! I love walking up mountains, and they never lose the mystery to me. George probably dislikes poetry and kittens too. 

A minor character is Lady Macleod, Alice’s aunt. Trollope spends a page discussing her essential character traits. Possessed of a bit of her own money, but no spouse or children, Lady Macleod is notorious for pinching pennies - particularly when it comes to paying the working classes. She is stingy with tips, hassles cabmen, and makes her servants miserable. And for what? So she can pass as much of her fortune on as possible. To whom? An even richer relative who won’t possibly notice. 

She was a hospitable, good old woman, painfully struggling to do the best she could in the world. It was a pity that she was such a bore, a pity that she was so hard to cabmen and others, a pity that she suspected all tradesmen, servants, and people generally of a rank of life inferior to her own, a pity that she was disposd to condemn for ever and ever so many of her own rank because they played cards on week days, and did not go to church on Sundays, -- and a pity, as I think above all, that while she was so suspicious of the poor she was so lenient to the vices of earls, earls’ sons, and such like.

That’s world class satire right there. Honestly, this is how I feel about most Evangelicals these days. So quick to be lenient to the nastiness of the rich, and so eager to punish the poor. 

I noted an interesting turn of phrase, used in passing by Lady Glencora. “There’s nothing to see, and the wind is as cold as charity.” There is a whole interesting world in that short line. 

One theme in the book is the utter cluelessness of most of the men when it comes to women. Trollope is pretty merciless in his portrayal of these moments, allowing the hapless males to twist in the wind. They deserve it. I mean, these are pretty elementary human relationship things, not advanced psychology. John Grey fails to read Alice’s need for equality, of course, but his is the most forgivable. It does, however, cost him an engagement and considerable time to repair the damage. George misreads Alice, and tries to impose affection on a relationship that no longer has a base of love and respect. And Mr. Cheeseacre tries to court Aunt Greenow with tales of his wealth. Her sharp tongue lays him out. 

“And look here, Mr. Cheesacre, if it should ever come to pass that you are making love to a lady in earnest--”
“I couldn’t be more in earnest,” said he.
“That you are making love to a lady in earnest, talk to her a little more about your passion and a little less about your purse.”

There are different levels of cluelessness, of course. John Grey is a typical Victorian gentleman, uninterested in questioning the status quo - which benefits him. But his love for a woman eventually motivates him to positive change. In what has to be one of the pivotal lines in the book, Grey discusses Alice with her father. Grey acknowledges that he has been partly to blame for the breakup, and insists that Alice’s “unforgivable” actions do not cast any negative light on her character. 

“I’ve no doubt of her being what you call a good girl,--none in the least. What she has done to me does not impair her goodness. I don’t think you have ever understood how much all this has been a matter of conscience with her.”

Palliser is a bit dense, to say the least, and even a near-catastrophe isn’t able to turn him into a truly sensitive man. But he does start listening a bit - high time, but not quite too late. 

Cheeseacre is a buffoon, of course, and gets a comeuppance, rather than an epiphany. 

And then there is George, who seems to be genuinely misogynistic - increasingly so as time goes on. Psychologically, this is necessary because he has to justify to himself his increasingly abusive behavior toward Kate, Alice, and his secret mistress. Trollope, in a typical passage, lays out “a certain kind of person,” then says that he doesn’t think that George is quite like that, but…

There are men who rarely think well of women,--who hardly think well of any woman. They put their mothers and sisters into the background,--as though they belonged to some sex or race apart,--and then declare to themselves and to their friends that all women are false,--that no woman can be trusted unless her ugliness protect her; and that every woman may be attacked as fairly as may game in a cover, or deer on a mountain. What man does not know men who have so thought?

I certainly have known men like that. I try to avoid them. On a related note, Trollope brings prostitutes into the story (although they aren’t as central as in The Vicar of Bullhampton) while hinting at the question which was debated in his day: if the pre-marital virtue of upper-class females was to be preserved, weren’t prostitutes necessary? One might note that prostitution has dramatically declined since then, rather in lock-step with the loosening of the obsession with upper and middle-class female “purity.” And one might also surmise that a return to Victorian mores might also require a disposable class of “soiled” females to preserve that “purity.” 

There is so much more worth discussing about this book. The way we are unsatisfied when we get what we want. The morality of conventionality versus the morality of compassion. The way that money changes how identical actions are viewed by society. And more.

Can You Forgive Her? is a fascinating book. I was reminded again why I keep returning to Trollope each year. 

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Interesting pop-culture/music connection. Neil Tennant, lead singer for The Pet Shop Boys, read Can You Forgive Her?, and wrote a song about it. It kind of modernizes and updates the quandary of John Grey. 



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