Thursday, April 9, 2026

Shoko's Smile by Choi Eunyoung

Source of book: Borrowed from the library

 

This collection of seven short stories translated from Korean was an NPR recommendation. 


The book is all about relationships involving women - mostly between women - and is overwhelmingly achingly sad. The relationships are pretty universally lost, no matter how well they start. 

 

Some of the loss is caused by death - including in a catastrophic ferry sinking that had profound political consequences in South Korea. Other losses are misunderstandings, growing apart, failure to maintain. It feels avoidable, but in practice it isn’t.

 

The relationships vary as well. Parent and child. Friends. Cousins. Lovers. Brief acquaintances. Neighbors. The reasons for the losses are as varied as the stories. 

 

Choi presents the stories without comment, daring the reader to empathise with even the most flawed characters, and see the failed relationships as the result of universal human flaws and traits, not “bad” character. 

 

In other words, it is a challenge of empathy. The characters are never horrible, just flawed, sometimes deeply. And often by their own traumas. 

 

As with many short story collections, I will go through each one and say a bit about it.

 

Shoko’s Smile

 

The title story is a bit unusual. Shoko is a Japanese exchange student who visits Korea, and starts a long-distance friendship with Soyu, another teen girl. Shoko also writes to Soyu’s grandfather. 

 

Within this triangle, there are differences of viewpoint. Ironically, Shoko is able to be most honest with the grandfather - and he with her - and Soyu, the narrator, finds that she didn’t really know either as well as she thought she did. 

 

It’s a bittersweet story, tragic more in “what might have been” than in any actual falling out. 

 

Xin Chao, Xin Chao

 

This story starts so very well, and seems like a rare ray of sunshine, before going horribly wrong. 

 

It is about two immigrant families that have come to Germany. The narrator (who may not have a name - I can’t find it now) is the young daughter in a Korean family who makes friends with Thuy, a classmate from a neighboring Vietnamese family. 

 

Over time, the families become close friends, and spend a lot of time with each other. It is really beautiful and Mrs. Nguyen in particular seems to be a wonderful person. 

 

But things sour when the subject of the Vietnamese war comes up, and the narrator’s dad foolishly claims Korea has never invaded anyone. It turns out that Korean troops fought with the Americans in the Vietnam war, and wiped out most of Mrs. Nguyen’s family when she was a girl. 

 

The friendship never recovers from this, unfortunately, and the families drift apart. 

 

One ray of hope is that the narrator, years later after her parents have died, finds Mrs. Nguyen, who embraces her. 

 

Sister, My Little Soonae

 

This one is heartbreaking and frustrating. As with the title story, it spans decades. At the beginning, Soonae, a distant cousin of the narrator, Hae Oak, comes to live with her and work in the sweatshop run by Hae Oak’s parents. While Soonae is older, she is tiny, hence the name. 

 

The two grow up more or less like sisters, and are very close during their childhood. 

 

What goes wrong for them is not at all their fault, at least initially. Soonae marries a man who is accused of being a communist collaborator. (Whether this is true is unclear - in the reality of the times, it didn’t matter.) He is imprisoned and tortured, and when released, he isn’t really functional any more. 

 

Hae Oak’s parents disown Soonae, and demand that Hae Oak does as well. After all, they are at risk due to their connection. 

 

Later, Hae Oak tries to reconnect, but finds she cannot deal with her horror at Soonae’s poverty or her husband’s disability. So they drift apart, and only reconnect after death. 

 

One wants to shake Hae Oak for being so superficial, but also one can understand the inability to bridge the gap. 

 

A great line in this story is about how the brutal authoritarian regime of Korea of that era crushed empathy - much like Trump and MAGA in our own time. 

 

The world sneered at anyone’s love for another person, the desperate wish to give one’s own life over and over again if it meant saving the life of another. The world said: loving others isn’t worth a penny, you weaklings better watch out; what does it matter if those eight nobodies are death, the law is what we say it is and the commies are who we say they are; when we tell you to kneel you kneel, and we can easily kill you by slapping a charge on you, so shut your mouth and do what we say. 

They were murdered by the state. 

 

That’s ICE, and how the regime wants ICE to have impunity. And why we must fight against the entire idea of a deportation force in the first place. 

 

Hanji and Youngju

 

This is the rare story that is about a male-female relationship, a brief romance. 

 

The story takes place at a weird monastery in France - founded by a mystic, and not really affiliated with any formal religious group. It attracts people from all over the world. 

 

It is never entirely clear what the beliefs of the group are - it seems fairly benign rather than cult-like. But the people who come there seem to come from all faith traditions. The founder was vaguely Protestant, but they sing Orthodox hymns, have Catholic leaders, and have members from all over the non-Christian spectrum as well. 

 

Youngju is the Korean narrator. She gets sidetracked from her graduate studies to volunteer at the monastery. Perhaps she is just being avoidant. 

 

She falls in love (more or less) with Hanji, a young veterinarian from Kenya. 

 

Their relationship becomes close, but also somewhat ambiguous. Are they a couple or not? 

 

And then, something happens. It isn’t clear what, and Youngju seems to not actually know. One day, Hanji is with her, the next he is distant. 

 

And the two of them never talk about it. 

 

This is where I just don’t get it. I know there are language barriers - they meet in the middle with English. But to just not say anything? Not my style I guess.

 

So, another failed relationship. He goes back to Kenya, she continues her studies, and she eventually drowns the diary she wrote during that time. 

 

The one great line from this story comes after the couple is out and about in France, and have racial slurs hurled at them. It puzzles Youngji why anyone would spend that much effort on hate. 

 

Truly I pitied these people who couldn’t feel secure about themselves in any other way. How empty a life of deriving joy from mocking and discriminating against another was. 

 

I don’t get it either. It’s one thing to be angry when one is wronged, but to hate strangers? To find your joy and identity in looking down on other people? It truly is an empty life. 

 

A Song From Afar

 

This story uses some Korean terms that don’t translate to English, so the definitions are provided at the beginning. In particular, the way that students of different years might refer to each other are important. 

 

Meejin is the older student, while the narrator is younger. They join a vocal group at college that soon disbands due to generational differences (particularly sexist older members), but the memories bond them anyway. 

 

It is unclear to me if the two were lovers, but it seems plausible. They then drift apart, partly due to the narrator’s struggle with depression, followed by Meejin’s departure to study in Russia. 

 

Most of the story takes place after Meejin’s sudden death from a heart issue. The narrator travels to Russia to meet Julia, the Polish woman who roomed with Meejin, before the two of them had a falling out. 

 

As with other stories, there is so much “what might have been” in this one. How did they grow apart? Could they have stayed close? Why didn’t either make much of an effort?

 

I liked the line in this one about why they sang. 

 

They sang because they were hurt and distressed. Some Sunbaes said singing was a tool to educate, a means to galvanize, but I think our songs were a promise we made to ourselves. The promise that I, at least, won’t live a life of pursuing darkness. The joy of being able to sing together. 

 

As a musician, I love this. 

 

Michaela

 

I will admit this story puzzles me. I am not sure if it is intentionally ambiguous, if something was lost in translation, or if the writer just didn’t connect the dots.

 

Michaela is ostensibly the main narrator, the daughter of an older woman who lives in poverty for a variety of reasons. She has moved to Seoul, and made a life for herself. 

 

Her mother married a lazy man, but made excuses for him, working herself half to death while he sat around the house. He has some reasons - he has trauma from the war, he lacks skills, he is supposedly taking care of his daughter (he isn’t) - but in any case, Michaela resents him, even after his death. 

 

In the meantime, her mother has poured herself into her religion. The story is centered on a visit of the Pope. Mother has saved money, and travels to see him, just like she did when Michaela was a child. 

 

But, being too proud to admit poverty, she tells her daughter that she will be staying with a friend, who turns out to be imaginary. Instead, she ends up sleeping in a bathroom, and getting lost, and wondering why her daughter doesn’t call her. 

 

The reason for that is that mom forgot to charge her phone, and Michaela is seriously worried and tries to find her. 

 

It is at this point that the story goes weird, and I was unable to follow it. Mom meets another old woman, and the two of them go to the memorial for the ferry sinking, where the other woman (I think it is her? Or is there only one woman?) mourns the loss of her daughter Michaela. 

 

And when Michaela shows up, the old woman she finds is not her mother. And…I really didn’t follow it.

 

Are there two Michaelas, one living, one dead? Are they alternative versions of reality? Is one a dream? I am seeing online that I am not the only one with some confusion here. So maybe someone can explain this story to me, because I re-read the ending and still couldn’t figure it out. 

 

Before the story goes weird, though, there is quite a bit of story that I really liked. I very much understood Michaela’s issues with her mother. The mother who was toxically positive about everything from their poverty to her pain from overwork, praising a benevolent god. As Michaela puts it, “her mom’s gratitude for the wretchedness of reality had, for a while, felt deceitful.” 

 

It’s harder as a kid to be positive about suffering, I guess. And it is particularly difficult to see a parent in deep denial that they have a problematic partner and that you as a child are being negatively affected - something I have personal experience with. 

 

The story is also an excellent look at the way that pride and embarrassment can keep people apart. It’s really a great story, notwithstanding the puzzling ending. 

 

The Secret

 

This one also involves the ferry sinking, but is far more straightforward. 

 

The granddaughter, a teacher-in-training, dies in the sinking while trying to save her students. This is based on reality. And not just in the usual “teacher dies saving students” story. The greater story is that the Korean government denied compensation to the families of the teachers-in-training, claiming that they were not killed on duty, because they had not yet gained their full licenses. 

 

That’s total chickenshit, of course, and led to public outrage.

 

In this story, however, grandma is dying, and she was close with her granddaughter. So her daughter and son-in-law pretend that the granddaughter is teaching in China, off the grid. 

 

Since the story is from the point of view of the grandmother, who is fighting dementia as well as ill health, it is an interesting view into the puzzlement of trying to understand what happened. 

 

It’s quite sad, of course, but also well written. 

 

That is the collection. It was a good read, but definitely bittersweet and sad throughout. 




Tuesday, April 7, 2026

Orlando by Sarah Ruhl (Bakersfield College 2026)

Last year, for Pride Month, I read Orlando by Virginia Woolf. It is a rather unique book, with a unique style. And, of course, a gender bending story that was a paean to her long-time partner, Vita Sackville-West.

 

When I saw that Bakersfield College was going to do Sarah Ruhl’s stage adaptation of the novel, I definitely wanted to see it. In part, to see how on earth such a bizarre and unusual novel could be made to fit and work on a stage in a reasonable amount of time. 

 

As it turns out, Ruhl used the overall framing of the story, and borrowed a lot of great lines from the book, but restricted her version to just her favorite episodes. This means, for example, that we lose the sojourn among the Gypsies (which hasn’t aged that well), and much of the engagement with literary critics. But the episodes that remain are well chosen, and make for a surprisingly coherent narrative arc on stage. 

 

The central story, as I noted in my post on the book, is that Orlando switches from male to female midway through the story. Why or how, we never know - just that he undoubtedly became she. 

 

The story takes place over hundreds of years - starting in the court of Queen Elizabeth the First, and continuing until the day the book was set to publish. This meant a lot of costume changes, which I’m sure were a ton of fun for the costume crew, and fascinating to watch on stage as well. 

 

Like the book, the stage version was quite funny, with so much pointed commentary on gender relations and stereotypes. The play leans into the humor, some of it slapstick, and overall felt a little less heavy than the book. On the other hand, because of what was cut, you miss out on some of the period-specific satire that I, as a reader of old books, loved about the original. No shade on Ruhl here, because transferring that to stage was probably impossible. 

 

In some stage versions, this has gone so far as having one or both versions of Orlando nude. I think that is unnecessary, and I will note that BC’s version was only mildly titillating: at times the quick changes were done on stage, so you got to see the actor in high-coverage underthings. 

 

What BC did do that has become standard practice for the play is to cast the key parts using transgender or non-binary actors. Virginia Woolf may have lived in a very different era, but I think she would have loved this choice. 

 

One change that BC did that I think was a great idea was to split Orlando into two parts, listed in the playbill as “Orlando of the Present” and “Orlando of the Past.” I suspect this was done both to give two actors significant parts and to split the otherwise huge number of lines up. Because of the way the play is written - Orlando narrates much of his life using lines from the book - the memorization was difficult enough with two actors splitting it. 

 

In this case, the older (present) Orlando was played by Kaine Brockenbrough, while the younger was played by Reece Olinger. The way the split ended up, Brockenbrough did more of the acted parts of the adult Orlando, both male and female, while Olinger played the young boy and continued to comment on the action as an observer of his/her future self. 

 Reece Olinger as Orlando of the Past

It is a bit difficult to explain how all this worked, but work it did. I didn’t find any difficulty following the story or figuring out which version of Orlando was which. 

 Kaine Brockenbrough as Orlando of the Present

I will also add that Olinger opened and closed the play with a song, playing acoustic guitar and singing without a microphone. Their voice is quite lovely, and was a great addition to the play. 

 

Also playing across gender were Alex Young as Sasha and Marmaduke, and Alex Mackenzie as Queen Elizabeth. There was also the actor who played the countess and the count (another gender-fluid role in the book), but since the rest of the cast are simply listed as “Chorus,” I am not sure of their identity. 

 

Members of the Chorus 

I’ll just note that the cast did a great job, and I really was impressed with the quality of the production from top to bottom. 

 

This is a great example of the high-quality work that our local junior college and university have been putting on lately. A play like Orlando isn’t standard fare, but one that the cast has to sell well to a potentially skeptical audience (including friends and family.) 

 

I wish I had had a chance to write this before the show closed - it ran only one weekend, and I had both a concert and a departure on vacation immediately afterward, so it was just impossible. I hope others attended and enjoyed it. 

 

Monday, April 6, 2026

Thunderstruck by Erik Larson

Source of book: Audiobook and book borrowed from the library

 

For the last several years, my wife and I have attended the Utah Shakespeare Festival - she went long before I did, with a friend. Regular readers of this blog may look forward to my usual post in July or August about the plays we saw. 

 

This post is tangentially connected to the USF. Usually, we try to listen to an audiobook on our drive out and back. Because this is my wife’s gig, she typically chooses the book, and that usually happens the day of the trip. 

 

Sometimes, this works out well - we finish the book, and I write about it when I get back. 

 

But back in 2023, the timing was all off, and I ended up missing the last 80 or so pages of the book. I always intended to finish it, but time got away from me. 

 

Because of another audiobook I didn’t finish on a recent trip, I decided to just go ahead and put in a request for the various unfinished books, and just get them done. 

 

That is the story behind Thunderstruck.

 

So, two and a half years later, here is the post about the book. 

 

Larson, as he apparently does in others of his books, combines two stories, one at the world-shaking level, and one at a more personal level. These stories interweave, and are told in a “novelistic” style (similar but not the same as “literary nonfiction) but with fidelity to the known facts. This is not historical fiction - in fact, even the quotes are all sourced from primary documents rather than imagined - but a telling of a true story with the feel of a novel. 

 

In Thunderstruck, that means we get the story of Marconi’s development of wireless technology combined with the rather lurid murder of Belle Elmore (one of several aliases) by her husband, Hawley Harvey Crippen. 

 

How are these two connected? Well, when Crippen attempted to flee to Canada with his mistress, the wireless telegraph enabled the captain of the ship he was on to notify Scotland Yard and facilitate the arrest. It was the first arrest made with the aid of the wireless - although it would definitely not be the last. 

 

Between the Marconi story and the Crippen story, there is plenty of material to make up a book. Marconi himself (like Edison and other well-known figures) didn’t invent the technology he is credited with. Rather, others laid the foundation and even made the first successful experiments. It was Marconi who first made a commercial success of the technology, thus gaining the credit - and the profits. 

 

I was gratified to see Oliver Lodge in particular get his due credit in this book, and not just because of his connection to my Wedgwood ancestors. Like Tesla, one wonders what might have been had he hired better attorneys. 

 

While there was a good bit more detail about Marconi and the history of wireless development in this book than I had read in any other single place, this was an area that I was pretty familiar with - I have been fascinated with all things electrical since childhood. (You can read about my favorite non-fiction book from my grade-school days here.) 

 

On the other hand, I was definitely not at all familiar with the Crippen case. 

 

The thing about that case, though, is that even though it never became a household name (like, say, Lizzie Borden) the elements of the crime have found their way into books and movies and television shows ever since. You will certainly recognize them.

 

I was also struck by the fact that the investigation and the evidence were a total mess. There are gaping holes everywhere, the “science” part seems dubious, and even today, there are those who question the official story. 

 

The one thing that can be said with certainty is that Crippen had the motive and the opportunity to kill his wife, and sure acted guiltily enough. I am no expert, but it seems to me that the evidence strongly suggests that he did kill his wife, but the specifics were quite possibly different than the official story. 

 

So, to start with, Crippen was an American grifter - a homeopathic “physician” who took to selling snake oil. After his first wife died, he took up with Belle Elmore, a dance hall singer and personality. At least, that was her stage name. There are several other names she appears to have used. And she always had a stable of boy toys on the side, it appears. 

 

The Crippens moved to London, to manage a branch of his partner’s snake oil business. After that broke up, he struggled to make sufficient income, relying to a degree on Belle’s singing. 

 

Crippen took on a secretary, Ethel Le Neve, who soon became his mistress. 

 

After years of fighting and general unpleasantness, Belle disappeared. It was generally thought that she ran off with her lover, who disappeared at the same time.

 

But Belle’s fellow performers smelled a rat, and kept pressuring the police to investigate. They were unable to find anything amiss, however. 

 

Crippen got spooked, however, and fled to Belgium with Le Neve. The police decided to look harder, and eventually dug under the cellar, finding human remains that they believed were Belle’s. 

 

Crippen and Le Neve boarded a ship bound for Canada, with her disguised as a boy, the captain was suspicious, and the rest is history. 

 

You can probably see the elements of a lurid crime fiction trope already. The buried body, the inconvenient spouse and new mistress, etc. There are others I didn’t mention: the use of quicklime to dissolve the body (which didn’t work), the dismemberment, a rare poison known to a doctor, use of a scar to identify the remains - there is a lot going on here.

 

I believe some of this was more hype than fact, though. The alleged scar was contested in court, which is a fascinating issue for us lawyer sorts. The toxicology was primitive at best, and the handling of the remains would likely not hold up in a modern courtroom. But this was 1910, so things were different. (Also, the British court system is a lot different than ours - Crippen was required to testify, and his testimony probably got him convicted where the evidence might not have.)

 

To me, though, the biggest questions raised about the holes in the official story were raised by none other than Raymond Chandler, the famous Crime Noir writer. 

 

The remains found were all from the torso of the deceased. The head, limbs, and indeed the skeleton were not there. So, someone would have had to do a very careful dismemberment and dispose of most of the corpse before burying just a bit of it. Why? And also, how? Despite attempts, no head, limbs, or bones were ever discovered. And if one could dispose of all that, why not just dispose of the whole thing? Why bother with burying any of it in the basement?

 

What seems more likely to Chandler (and to me) is that if Crippen did kill Belle, using the drug he was known to have had available, he probably just disposed of the whole body somewhere else. And whatever was in the basement was…someone else altogether, and maybe not even connected to Crippen at all. 

 

(The fact that requests to test the evidence for DNA connection have been denied feeds the suspicion that this was a problematic case.) 

 

What an Edwardian muddle, so to speak: all the lurid details of Victorian Gothic, combined with new but primitive forensic tools and a lack of consistent procedure and protocol to ensure their accuracy. 

 

Larson makes the parallel stories quite compelling. His writing style is closer to that of a novelist than the usual non-fiction writer. This makes things a bit breezy, but he backs it up with a tremendous amount of research and primary-source detail. For example, he read the entire case file, the transcripts, and connected material. He read the letters and writings of the various people involved, from Marconi to Ethel Le Neve to the detective who cracked the case. 

 

As I mentioned, unlike a historical fiction writer, he invents no conversations - the actual words of the people involved have been located and placed in the correct point in the narrative. It’s impressive work - and I enjoyed Larson’s bit at the end about where he found his sources. 

 

I’m not sure I would have chosen this book based on the topic, but I was drawn in, and did want to go back and finish it. I’m glad I did. 

 

I have had various Larson books recommended to me by friends, so I may have to put those on the list. 

 

I don’t remember enough about the audiobook itself to say anything about it. I assume it was okay, or I would have remembered it was problematic. 

 

Friday, March 27, 2026

Memoir of a Race Traitor by Mag Segrest

Source of book: I own this

 

When this book was re-released in 2019, I knew I needed a copy for my library. I am collecting a number of non-fiction works related to the Civil Rights Movement and other liberation and justice movements in our history. In part, this is because of the ongoing push by the Right Wing to ban these books from libraries and schools. 

 

Mag Segrest is still around, believe it or not. She is about the age of my parents, although she has been an active organizer, advocate, and educator for decades. She wrote this book in 1994, mostly about her anti-Klan work during the 1980s in North Carolina. 


 

The book is divided into three sections. The first and longest is her memoir, which includes a lot about her family as well as her anti-racism work. It also speaks quite a bit to the necessary alliance between anti-racists and anti-bigots in other areas, particularly the need for the racial justice movement to embrace the LGBTQ rights cause and vice versa. 

 

As she points out time and again, with solid evidence, the two are engaged in the same fight. Racism and other bigotries - misogyny, homophobia, transphobia, economic injustice - all come from the same diseased part of the soul. And the bigotries combine to place certain wealthy white males at the top of society, grinding nearly everyone else. 

 

The second part of the book is a series of essays about history. Specifically, the history of the United States as traced through the generations of her maternal ancestors, who came here around the beginning, and were active Confederates and white supremacists down through the generations. 

 

These also talk a lot about capitalism and how it depends on permanent underclasses at home and abroad. You will get a bit of Howard Zinn here. I don’t agree with all of her points - for example, I think that NAFTA and its successors did less harm to industrial jobs than automation, and that simply ending free trade (e.g. the Trump tariffs) won’t bring back those jobs. But for the most part, it holds up well. 

 

The final part is a lecture she gave to a Southern LGBTQ group about the need to fight for racial justice, and it is pretty badass. 

 

And actually, Segrest herself is pretty much a textbook badass, doing the right thing, fighting the good fight, living authentically as herself despite her roots, and encouraging others to do justice, love mercy, and walk humbly. 

 

Segrest jumps around a bit in time throughout the book, switching between her public life fighting the Klan and her personal life involving her parents. 

 

And her parents are fascinating. They had issues, for sure. Her father advocated for segregated schools, but also weirdly respected Segrest’s completely opposed advocacy. At the end of the updated edition, she notes that they remained friends until his death. 

 

Likewise, her mother wasn’t happy about the book, but they found common ground. Her mother also suffered most of her life from a debilitating auto-immune disorder that kept her bedridden and in pain until her early death. So she had other issues to worry about. 

 

I was also fascinated by the way that her very traditional Southern parents were both disappointed and yet weirdly accepting of Segrest’s sexual orientation. Ditto for her sister, who went all Fundie as an adult, and yet somehow kept a connection. I can’t explain in a few words the complexity of all this, but the book does a good job. 

 

The book tells a story that feels very relevant today, but isn’t known all that well to those of us who grew up on the West Coast. The 1980s were a time of Klan violence across the South, with some events that I never even heard of until relatively recently, like the Greensboro Massacre and various Klan assassinations throughout the South. I certainly wasn’t taught about modern Klan violence in our Fundie curriculum. But these are events that directly involved Segrest and the anti-racist organization she worked for at the time. 

 

It is horrifying to understand that the same people, the same organizations, and the same ideologies that drove the Klan and the American Nazi Party back then have basically seized control of our federal government in the form of Trump and his goons. And I mean literally the same people and organizations.

 

Rather than try to summarize the book, I am just going to go with a whole lot of quotes. The book tells a fascinating story, by a fascinating human who is now one of my heroes. 

 

I’ll start with a great quote from Lillian Smith, a white woman who fought racism in her own way. I wrote about her excellent book, Strange Fruit, in 2019, for Banned Books Week. That book was the original “Banned in Boston” book. 

 

“Racism is so different from prejudice; it would be helpful if people could begin to use words precisely, giving them their actual meaning…We have scarcely begun to probe this illness. Let’s call it what it is: evil. I’m not sure it is an illness, it may simply be evil.”

 

Although not in this quote, Segrest makes clear elsewhere that racism requires power. Anyone can be prejudiced, but only power can segregate and brutalize. 

 

I am very much with Smith here: racism is evil. It is our national sin, and it is the worst of sins, as it dehumanizes other humans. It also is the polar opposite of neighbor-love, and thus the most anti-Christ sin possible. (Bigotry in general is in this category. It is the worst and most serious of sins.) 

 

The introduction to the new edition is worth reading. I wrote down a few quotes from it. 

 

She quotes a black feminist organization statement about Intersectionality that explains why all forms of injustice need to be addressed together. 

 

“[T]he particular task of integrated analysis and practice based on the fact that the major systems of oppression are interlocking.”

 

I have discovered this over the years to be true. I do not know of a single anti-LGBTQ bigot who is not misogynistic, and I do not know of a single white anti-LGBTQ bigot who is not also racist as fuck. I cannot think of a single exception. It is the same disease of the soul. 

 

Later, in the preface to the original edition, she explains again how things interlock.

 

This book is by a lesbian, who cannot look at race in an uncomplicated way, who has worked to articulate the many interfaces among misogyny, racism, and homophobia in a culture ravaged by all three. 

This book is by a woman who has never yet gone to bed hungry for lack of food, who has never yet slept outdoors for lack of shelter, who has never yet not worked for lack of a job, who is trying to understand a capitalism that denies many of her fellow humans all three. 

 

Another quote is excellent, and to a certain (although lesser) degree, it reflects my own journey out of my family past. 

 

In Durham in my twenties and thirties I jumped the tracks to the right side of history. I carried in my baggage, out of the apartheid of my Alabama childhood, the genealogies of family members whose legacies included the destruction of Reconstruction, the Ku Klux Klan, the White Citizens’ Council, segregated private schools, and the murder of civil rights worker Sammy Younge in my hometown of Tuskegee, Alabama, in 1966. It left me lots to unpack and sort through, to discard or mend, or to wrap around me. 

 

I too find myself as a “Race Traitor,” one who has rejected a certain thread in my ancestry. While my ancestors do not (as far as I know) include any KKK members, I have come to realize that most of my parents’ and grandparents’ generations in my family hold white supremacist views, and vote for white supremacist candidates, parties, and policies. 

 

There are also some good threads, like an uncle who used his position in the LAPD to fight the Klan after a cross was burned on his neighbor’s lawn. There are moments when my parents have been antiracist, and they certainly taught me those values, although they seem to have abandoned them in the Trump Era

 

I clearly have “switched sides” like Segrest, to the right side of history. But also, weirdly, I feel like I was raised there, and instead it is my family and my church and my country who switched sides to the side of evil. I don’t get it. It’s disorienting for sure. 

 

The book opens both with a look at history - the murder and beheading of Native American figure Osceola, and the lynching of Younge by Segrest’s cousin - and with a preview of what will unfold in the book in the battle against the Klan. 

 

My immediate adversaries were Ku Klux Klansmen seeking to restore the apartheid world of my Alabama childhood and neo-Nazis looking toward a cataclysmic future, a globe in which only Aryans would survive their wars to purify the white race. These extremists could operate because they served the purposes of numb and greedy men and their systems built on dark-skinned people’s bones and blood. 

 

At the same time, as I noted, she was at odds with her family. 

 

Then there is my father, who organized a network of segregated private schools all over Alabama. I have made a profession of being better than him. 

 

I kind of feel like that last line applies to me as well. Trying to be better than my ancestors. In a later passage, Segrest mentions the Rev. Wilson Lee, a black anti-racist organizer she worked with.

 

In fact, Wilson Lee and my own daddy were the opposite sides of a coin. My father spent much of my adolescence organizing white private schools all over Alabama. Like Wilson, he spent many of his evenings out of the house at meetings. When I went to Black community meetings in Statesville with Reverend Lee, I had an eerie feeling that my father was out there somewhere organizing the other side.

 

She ends the chapter with this thought:

 

It’s not my people, it’s the idea of race I am betraying. It’s taken me a while to get the distinction. 

 

Truth. 

 

As she should, Segrest notes that the history of the United States has been one of the moneyed classes pitting poor blacks and whites against each other. 

 

In the 1890s all across the New South, northern capitalists and a new southern owning class built a network of cotton mills on the rivers and streams of land only thirty-five years removed from chattel slavery. Into those mills flocked poor whites out of the hills and off depressed farms. They entered into a pact to provide non-union, low-wage labor in exchange for the exalted privilege of being white.

 

This explains a certain amount of MAGA rage. (The average MAGA is above average in wages, below average in education, but there is a working-class MAGA contingent.) They are used to being able to look down on minorities, but as minorities have made gains, it turns out they are now just poor, not exalted whites.

 

These whites had plenty of help in making this illogical leap. Republican Party strategists began telling them in 1972 that the problem was affirmative action programs, niggers getting their jobs. Forget the fact that Black folks were still worse off than whites. And the Klan was around again to focus white discontent. 

 

Sound familiar? That’s exactly the evil lie that Trump and MAGA are selling, with their anti-Diversity, anti-Equity, anti-Inclusion push. 

 

In another horrifying episode involving her father, he complains about the tears shed after the little girls were killed in the church bombing. Young Mab is horrified. 

 

He was wrong, and it made me angry. Like him, I withdrew into silence.

 

So. Many. Times. With. My. Parents. Particularly over the last two decades. They are wrong. Dead wrong. Wrong as in evil in many cases. And it makes me angry. Same thing with the religious leaders who taught me good values they had no intention of living by.

 

Like most adolescents, I was an idealist, and this rupture between my teachers’ lessons and their behavior shook me profoundly. If we could decide who could not come into our church, then it was just a building that belonged to us, not God. It took me years to articulate my disquiet. Didn’t the same act of locking other people out also lock us in?

 

Amen. 

 

There are some great stories told by Rev. Lee in this chapter. And also this one by his wife Alice. 

 

Alice Lee was as brave as her husband. She told me once about a series of threatening calls to their home. She would answer the phone, only to hear a white male’s voice. The first time he called with a string of obscene insults, she said, “That’s your mama.” The second time he called to harass her, she said, “That’s your grandmamma.” The third time she said, “That’s your great-grandmamma.” The fourth time, she said, “I can’t go back any farther than that, or we will be related.” He hung up and did not call again. 

 

That too is the truth of America. We are related, literally, through our bloodlines. As Albert Murray noted, not only do virtually all of the descendants of the enslaved have white genes, it comes from the rich and powerful of that era. 

 

Another interesting story in this chapter reminded me that the current group of would-be book banners is no different from the old one. Back in the day, the Klan showed up to protest supposedly “obscene” books. And yes, some of the books are literally the same books now as then. It is the “same old serpent” as Abraham Lincoln put it. 

 

Segrest also describes the “nighthawks,” the heavily armed security force for the Klan. Then as now, they were also self-proclaimed “followers of Christ” despite standing for the polar opposite of Christ’s teachings. The Klan has always claimed to be “christian.” It just uses the initials MAGA now. 

 

I ran across an unexpected and fascinating connection in this book. I am a huge fan of Rhiannon Giddens, an African-American musician and composer who has incredible musical range. Trained as an opera singer, she co-wrote the opera Omar, which I wrote about on this blog, and has been a champion of roots music, bluegrass, and all the connected art forms co-created by white and black. 

 

So anyway, Segrest talks about her work with the magazine, Feminary, which was a lesbian publication back in the day. One of the names she mentions as being involved was Deborah Giddens. 

 

While I cannot 100% confirm that this is Rhiannon’s mother, it seems extremely likely. I do not know how many black lesbian women activists with that name are from Greensboro, and at that exact time in history, but it seems to me highly likely that this is the same person. That’s pretty cool. 

 

This leads to a discussion of feminism and racism, including the uncomfortable fact that many first wave white feminists engaged in racist rhetoric in arguing for female suffrage. Specifically named are two women that did a lot of good, but, like all heroes, had feet of clay: Susan B. Anthony and Elizabeth Cady Stanton. Sigh. 

 

But that is part of what Segrest is getting at, is that white activists need to get over ourselves a bit, and recognize that misogyny is also about racism, just like anti-LGBTQ bigotry is rooted in misogyny

 

Also important here is another issue that Segrest raises regarding allies who inadvertently place LGBTQ or black people at risk. She mentions her friend Carl, who succumbed to AIDS in the 1980s. 

 

Carl once explained his disillusionment with the community organizing he had done, the ways some organizers would “manipulate people into taking certain steps” without risking the repercussions themselves. 

 

This chapter also has a great discussion of the concept of “bad blood” - something Hitler talked about a lot (“Blood sin and desecration of the race are the original sin in this world.”) and also that Trump and his goons also talk about a lot. It’s the same old serpent. It is interesting to see how both blame disease on “those people,” seeing Jews and brown people as inherently diseased. This really should be a whole blog post if I get time. It undergirds Trump’s botched response to Covid as well as RFK Jr.’s approach to measles. 

 

And yikes, Tuskegee. The experiment where black men were allowed to die of syphilis due to lack of treatment in the name of “science.” The men were not even told what they were sick from, instead that it was “bad blood.” God. Segrest ties this to our criminal lack of response to AIDS decades later. We let people die because we saw them as the contamination, not viruses. 

 

I also have to quote a conversation at a trial that Segrest recounts. I am thinking I might have to use it myself.

 

“Miss Segrest, are you a l-”

Here it comes, I thought, bracing myself.

“-liberal?” he completed.

“Are you a fascist?” I asked, then walked away. 

 

Mic drop. 

 

I found that the chapters about family were particularly fascinating, probably because of my own political break with my parents and my subsequent estrangement as a result. There is a line in the chapter about her mother’s death that resonated for me.

 

I had dedicated the book [of essays] to Mother “for all she taught me, and all she left for me to learn,” its origins in my mid-adolescent realization that something at home was very wrong and that I could not take the world as my mother taught it to me. 

 

Yeah, that sounds very familiar. 

 

And also this, about how her parents, like mine, dealt unhealthily with their fears. 

 

They stuffed it all into a myth of domesticity that they had dreamed out in the long war years and now saw refracted back from the new television screens.

 

A later chapter centers on a line from Alice Walker, in a discussion of Flannery O’Connor. A great Southern writer whose work nonetheless suffers from unconscious biases. 

 

For Walker, she goes with “Take what you can use and let the rest rot.” This has served as a solid approach to life - and to reading - for me. Perhaps it could serve as a motto for this blog. It certainly describes my relationship to my upbringing. There was a lot of good. And lot of poison. Take what you can use. Let the rest rot. 

 

In another passage later - about the murders at a queer-owned bookstore by the Klan - there are more explicit connections drawn between white supremacy and anti-LGBTQ hate. In fact, the neo-Nazis that are eventually put on trial for the murders are explicit that their “Aryan God” - their own words - compels them to “declare war against Niggers, Jews, Queers, assorted Mongrels, white Race traitors, and despicable informants.” 

 

A more positive conversation takes place between Segrest and her long-time fellow civil rights advocate, Christina Davis-McCoy. The two of them ended up having a falling-out due to a combination of factors that included health issues, but remained allies even after both left the organization. (The updated book has a chapter on where key figures ended up, and Christina contributed her own bit including kind words for Segrest and their cause back in the day.) I want to quote her in an earlier passage:

 

“For me, the real issue is that the hope for the world rests in us, people of goodwill, people of consciousness, working together to do the hard work of reforming, deconstructing, reworking this society.”

 

Indeed. 

 

Segrest contrasts the community she found in marginalized groups, that didn’t really exist among racist whites. She makes a point that very much applies to our present time.

 

[F]ascism was about isolation, about political movements deliberately breaking down the human bonds between people so that they give blind allegiance to a leader or ideology. 

 

The epilogue ties up the memoir portion of the book, and it has a number of lines I liked. 

 

Writing autobiography, if nothing else, has deepened my appreciation for why people write fiction. 

 

And this one:

 

Individuals project onto others the characteristics they cannot accept in themselves, then control, punish, or eradicate the objects of those projections (whether female, dark-skinned, homosexual, poor, Jewish….) Our identities, structured as they are on what we hate, resist, or fear, are disturbingly unstable. This leads to further repression and gives us a curious interest in proliferating the things we oppose. 

 

Some interesting family stuff makes it in here too, like her father telling her that she was too hard on herself in the book. Again, it is weird that they ended up respecting each other at the end. Her sister, likewise, said, “Your memories are your memories, and you have a right to them in your own book.”

 

That particular line hit hard for me, because one of the big disagreements I have had with my parents and my sister is over my right to tell the story of my life. They think they own my memories, and that I have no right to my own perspective if it conflicts with theirs.

 

Another interesting bit came in a passage where Segrest mentions the later lives of some of the people from her early years. In particular, it is fascinating to see how some of the families of her gay friends eventually came to accept them. 

 

One of them, a mother of one of the murdered gay men, actually came out and said, “There should be classes in school, like sex education classes, that teach that people like this may be in your family and how to accept it.” She gave permission for the line to be in the book. 

 

And damn, YES! This is exactly what we need. And exactly why Fundie bigots fight so hard against scientifically accurate sex education, including information about the existence of LGBTQ people, and work to ban books that acknowledge their existence. 

 

This wraps up the first section of the book. 

 

The next section was really fascinating. As I noted above, I disagree with a few of her opinions about the economic issues. For example, I think she falls into the error of many white liberals of thinking that economic insecurity drives racism and the KKK. The problem with that is that the Klan has always recruited from the upper middle class - and MAGA itself has higher than average income. (But lower than average education.) The driver, in my view, is not economic but social. Seeing women and minorities gain some degree of social equality threatens them most. It is the loss of that supremacy that drives racism, rather than pure economics. Otherwise, the poorest whites would be the most racist and MAGA, but they aren’t. 

 

I already mentioned the problem of automation, but I also want to mention here that Segrest seems negative about a service-sector based economy. She is correct that we do not pay our service sector workers adequately, but I also think that it is inevitable if we accept automation that the service sector will be the source of most jobs. And honestly, we don’t really need more manufactured crap widgets. We need teachers and medical care workers and all the other service sector people - the ones who care for others and do the human work that is the most vital in our society. 

 

That aside, Segrest is correct that the solution needs to be to address the problems of predatory capitalism. (Which is not the same thing as free enterprise, commerce, or markets. This could be a whole post, but it is the concentration of wealth - and yes, the means of production - that drives inequality in our society.)

 

These chapters are all about Segrest’s ancestors, as they lived in the midst of the colonialist capitalism of the last 400 years. 

 

My goal, then, is to provide an overview of the history of racism in the United States that can be read in one (long) sitting: a place for beginning students and activists to understand the extensive and cruel history of institutional racism, as well as for others more veteran to review this history in light of the present emergency; to understand how capitalism has worked with racism to write various of us into it differently according to gender, class, sexual orientation, nationality, geography, and skin color. The essay has had an additional value for me in getting a historic perspective on my own family’s emotional dynamics.

 

Early on, in a passage about how Europeans somehow lost their ability to feel empathy and community, Segrest notes the toxic fruit. This goes back a long way - Howard Zinn has speculated that the slave societies of Greece and Rome were a factor. 

 

It is this failure to feel the communal bonds between humans, I think, and the punishment that undoubtedly came to those Europeans who did, that allowed the “community of the lie” to grow so genocidally in the soil of the “New World.”

 

Even a cursory look at the statements against empathy and in favor of genocidal violence coming from the Trump regime reveals these evil roots. As does the swerve of right-wing religion toward treating empathy as a grave sin. 

 

Segrest also notes what many Black writers have for centuries: race is an invention, an excuse to justify exploitation. “White” isn’t a biological category, but a made-up social one. It is very real in the way it affects people, but it is a human invention. 

 

This creation of white identity in late seventeenth-century Virginia is what James Baldwin recognized. The implications are profound: if we white folks were constructed by history, we can, over time and as a people, unconstruct ourselves. The Klan knows this possibility and recognizes those whites who disavow this history as “white niggers,” “race traitors,” and “nigger lovers.” How, then, to move masses of white people to become traitors to the concept of race?

 

That is the question, isn’t it? For a fellow “race traitor” like me, this is ultimately the goal. To convince other white people that white identity has harmed all of us, black, white, and brown. 

 

One of the most interesting parts of these essays is the passage detailing the history of cooperation and antagonism between the abolitionist/civil rights movement and the feminist movement. At times, there was constructive cooperation, and those who recognized that racial justice and gender justice are linked. For example:

 

This radical analysis emerged as a contradiction to the moment when growing industrialism encouraged the “cult of true womanhood,” confining pious, domestic, submissive, and pure - therefore middle class - “true” women to the home at a time when more and more poor women were entering the factory workforce. 

 

The “cult of true womanhood” - aka the “cult of domesticity” - has been devastating in my birth family. But it also arose out of a need to enable idle white women to look down on women of color, immigrant women, and poor women who had to work. Recognizing the role of this cult in enforcing racism and classism is a significant reason I rejected it in my own marriage and family. 

 

Eastern Europeans battled their way into the white working class, while non-Europeans were often excluded from the unions and the economic progress that resulted from labor struggles. Like the “cult of true womanhood” that worked to draw the line around who was a “real woman,” race ideology created a highly elastic “cult of true whiteness”; both of these seemingly biological categories drew their power in part from their volatility and their power to exclude.

 

Yep, the Irish and the Italians used to be “not white” until they were. 

 

The family stuff is fascinating too. Segrest’s mother never really knew her father. He died of malaria complications when she was young, so she never experienced the dark side of him like the rest of her family did. 

 

She loved her daddy the way women love men they never knew except through other people’s stories.

 

And also this:

 

In my forties I have begun to deal with the effects of my sense of abandonment from her absences, my panic from her sickness: issues usually privatized in therapy discussions of “dysfunctional families,” but in fact with historical causes and dimensions, racism not the least of these. 

 

The final main section (not including the brief updates for the second edition) is the lecture to the LGBTQ group. I really loved this for so many reasons, and wrote down a number of quotes.

 

Those of you making your first trip South may already be disoriented by our peculiar blend of hospitality and repression, which comes from having spent 246 of the last 374 years as a slave culture. 

 

Oh man, I know that feeling. It really is a bizarre culture in so many ways, from the casual racism of people who don’t think they are racist, to the hospitality foreign to the West Coast where I am from, to the oddly repressed ways of thinking. Of all the people I know from around the country, it is the Southerners that have been the hardest to connect with. Yes, there are exceptions, but on the whole? 

 

The passage on civil rights and intersectionality is excellent. 

 

The only “special right” that the United States gives to minorities is the right to be the target of genocidal policies. We have only to look at AIDS policy to confirm this truth. Just as we do not want people of color buying the Right’s homophobic argument that we are after “special rights, not civil rights, it is also vital that our movement does not buy the racist backlash to affirmative action propagated over the last two decades by the same Republican forces. When we put both parts of their strategy together, it’s clear that, to them, all civil rights are “special rights” that victimize privileged white men. When any “minority,” whether racial, ethnic, gendered, or sexual, buys into these wedge strategies, we play ourselves for fools and disrupt the possibility of a transformative political majority in the next century. 

 

Sigh. And now we have MAGA, convinced that those poor white males are being discriminated against because women and people of color do a bit better than they used to. 

 

If we follow the ethnicity theory, we perpetuate the belief that the issue of “homophobia” is mainly a matter of personal prejudice, which contact with us will diffuse. We ignore the extent to which the most powerful political and economic forces in this country have an investment in our degradation. Literally, right-wing groups invest millions in slandering us, knowing that these efforts will build up their grassroots base and their funding chests.

 

Sad that this is true, but it very much is. 

 

I also loved that she pointed out how much our culture - descended from the Puritans, the Victorians, and an entire toxic religious tradition of mind/body duality - Gnosticism of the modern age - hates bodies. Because of this, we are able to hate people whose bodies differ from ours, whether in skin color or sexual expression. 

 

We know that in some cultures that do not hate the body, the male and female principles are not so much at war as they are in this culture, and that gender-transgressive people like the berdache in American Indian societies are considered holy people - as we are holy people. 

 

And also this:

 

But we gay people also bring the knowledge that humans are not only “means of production,” however much capitalism seeks to define us that way. We know and insist that our needs include not only the survival needs of food, shelter, health care, and clothing but also dignity, pleasure, intimacy, and love. 

 

The lecture ends on a very positive note, and a call to take up the cause of human thriving for all of us. 

 

In our movement, we see the opportunity in the crisis to do what we should have done twenty-five years ago: increase our determination to keep faith with one another by not tolerating racism, sexism, anti-Semitism, ageism, the fear and neglect of the disabled, or class divisions in ourselves or in our organizations.

This reenergized movement will be, in Suzanne Pharr’s eloquent terms, “not a wedge, but a bridge”; not a point of division, but of expansion and connection. To those who insist on denying us our full humanity, we will insist on the sacred humanity of all people. 

 

The final word I will leave from the book comes in the updated Afterword, which gives the end of the story for some of the people in the book. For one of the white supremacists, he ended his life on death row for a stupid anti-Semitic murder spree that ended up killing people who weren’t even Jewish. This came after he had already buried two of his children, and descended into an increasingly psychotic racism and degradation. 

 

Segrest points out the irony for white supremacists. They claim to be worried about “white genocide” - the “great replacement theory,” and other paranoias resulting from their panic about loss of privilege; but they are literally killing themselves and people like them

 

White Supremacy IS white genocide. 

 

This is the tragedy of racism and bigotry. It hurts all of us, black, white, brown, male, female, seniors, children, gay, cishet - everyone. It is a poison that can only kill and injure, not heal. It has borne toxic fruit in my birth family, in our nation, and around the globe. 

 

In fact, it is the polar opposite of Christ’s “greatest commandment”: 

 

Love your neighbor as yourself.

 

Neighbor love does not sort people into hierarchies. It does not relegate some neighbors to suffering. It does not look down on neighbors because they are different. It does not set up and maintain systems of oppression, but dismantles them so all can thrive.

 

This is a fascinating book, and I highly recommend it. 







Wednesday, March 25, 2026

Milk Blood Heat by Dantiel Moniz

Source of book: Audiobook from the library

 

Let me say at the outset that this collection of 11 short stories is both excellently written and also a bit rough in the subject matter of a few of the stories.

 

So, if you have issues with certain themes, you might either want to skip a story, or at least be forewarned. 

 

I also am going to, as I often do with short story collections, go through each in order. Thus, there will be spoilers. If you want to read the stories first, stop after the next few paragraphs and come back later.

 

The book is about relationships - family, friends, co-workers, acquaintances. It is also about traumatic incidents and how they unite or divide. It is about the less comfortable truths about interracial encounters, whether marriage and parenthood, or in less intimate settings. It is about the vulnerability humans have at transitional times: puberty, pregnancy, illness, marriage, death of a parent, abandonment. 

 

As I mentioned, the book is really well written, and emotionally compelling. The fact that I wanted to yell at various characters is an indication of how real they felt. So if you like good writing, good characters, and believable scenarios, you might like this book.

 

But be warned that some terrible things happen in this book too. 

 

Okay, if you don’t want spoilers, here is where you stop. 


 

***

 

“Milk Blood Heat”

 

The author starts right in with what I found to be the most traumatic story. Ava is a middle-class black girl, who is best friends with Kiera, a white girl. They go so far as to make a blood pact - cut their palms, let the blood make milk pink, then drink it. 

 

The two of them are a bit of trouble together, although probably not more than the average middle schooler dealing with puberty and all the really big feelings of the age. 

 

So much about this story is beautiful. But from the beginning there is the ominous fact that the two of them talk a lot about death and what it would feel like to die in various gruesome ways. 

 

It all goes to hell at a fancy birthday party for a mutual acquaintance, when the girls sneak off to the hotel roof to talk, and Kiera, on a whim, throws herself off it to her death. 

 

Yeah, that’s a rough story to start with. 

 

The thing is, I kind of understand Kiera all too much. To be clear, I am not suicidal, and I don’t tend that direction. (I used to joke as a kid that I was more homicidal than suicidal, but really I’m not violent by nature.) 

 

That said, there is a weird human psychological phenomenon where some of us feel a weird urge to jump from heights. It affects about one-third of people, most of which do not have suicidal ideations or other risk factors for suicide. Christopher Walken actually talked about his experience in one of his films where he felt this. 

 

More recently, and more seriously, a 14 year old boy walked off a cliff hiking down from Mt. Whitney last year. Fortunately, he appears to have recovered well, but scary as hell. (Lack of sleep may have been a factor, but probably also “the call of the void.”) 

 

I love to walk up mountains and love views, although cliffs are not really my vibe. In the course of my many hikes to tall places, like Half Dome, I have experienced this, and it is not fun. I don’t think I am a risk to do anything rash, but the fact that my psyche does this is one reason why I tend to stay well back from the edge. 

 

Anyway, I should mention that the ending of this story is pretty incredible. If you can handle the trauma, it is worth it.

 

“Feast”

 

This is the one where I really wanted to yell at the protagonist. Rayna is a black woman married to a white man, Heath. He has a six-year-old daughter from a prior. Rayna has just had a miscarriage, and is experiencing psychotic issues afterward. Thinks like seeing body parts from her lost baby everywhere. 

 

She needs help, but is masking her symptoms from her husband. Until her stepdaughter, trying to make her feel better, triggers something. 

 

Fortunately, in this story, only the pregnancy is lost. Nobody dies. But damn, poor kid is going to have some trauma. And the ending on this one is frustrating. One worries that later, Rayna is going to harm herself or someone else. I want to shake her and get her some therapy and medication. 

 

And really, if you are experiencing post-partum or post-miscarriage depression, please get help. 

 

“Tongues”

 

This one has some trigger for sexual assault, although it is a lot less traumatic than the first two stories. 

 

Zey is a 17 year old girl who is losing her faith. Largely because her pastor (who is creep-ass too) insists on the subordination of women. 

 

After her younger brother Duck gets bullied due to the rumor that she is “possessed,” she takes matters into her own hands, literally, in a seriously crazy incident that leaves the bully pretty shaken. And he deserves it. 

 

I certainly get the deconstruction stuff, and I have dealt with my own creep-ass pastors over the years. I have also seen how bullies operate. So I was mostly with Zey in this story. 

 

“The Loss of Heaven”

 

All of the stories are from the point of view of women other than this one and a really short one that has more of a group narrator. 

 

Fred is in his 50s and is facing the loss of his beloved wife Gloria, who has chosen not to undergo a second round of radiation and chemo after her cancer returns. 

 

This story is really perceptive, about the ways that many men struggle to process or discuss their feelings. The stoicism, the isolation, the projection of fear and grief onto more “manly” emotions like anger and arrogance. 

 

This is all complicated by Fred’s belief in traditional gender roles. He loses control and cannot deal with that loss well. 

 

Fred is a sympathetic if frustrating protagonist. I can see in him so many from my grandparents’ generation, my parents’ generation, and even my own. 

 

He is unable to truly feel the legitimate grief and his impending loss, and this means he cannot really share with his wife, or anyone else. 

 

The story is also about the loss that comes from putting freedom and wealth over relationships. In the end, those things are mostly meaningless when you lose the one you share your life with. 

 

“The Hearts of Our Enemies”

 

I think this one may be my favorite of the collection. The central relationship is between the mother, Frankie, and her teen daughter, Margot. 

 

Frankie has come close to having an affair with her daughter’s teacher, Mr. Klein. When she breaks it off and confesses, her husband leaves for a while. Her daughter pretty much disowns her, but, as we find out, not because of the affair per se. Rather, it is because her mother lacked the courage to actually have the affair. The sort of yes, sort of no, strikes her as cowardly. 

 

To make things crazier, Mr. Klein starts pursuing Margot - and Frankie finds the love note. 

 

Here too, there is a creative and interesting revenge scene. But it is the psychology of both Margot and Frankie that is the best part of the story. 

 

“Outside the Raft”

 

This is another story about failure to connect, failure to be honest with one’s self. In this one, young Shayla is close to her cousin, Tweet, who has a reputation as a troubled child, probably because her parents are in prison. 

 

Shayla overhears her mother saying that Tweet has “darkness” in her that she hopes doesn’t rub off on Shayla. Since Shayla knows that she has her own dark impulses, she fears that she will not be loved if she is herself.

 

A near drowning at the beach where Shayla panics and nearly kills Tweet in her attempt to get back to a raft confirms to Shayla that she is unworthy of love. There are a lot of “what if?”s in this one. 

 

“Snow”

 

Another interracial marriage story. Trinity is newly married to her husband Derrick. They are going through a rough patch, though, where the sexual connection is struggling and both are feeling that the problem is their fault. 

 

Most of the story takes place at the restaurant where Trinity is a waitress. She flirts with a co-worker, who clearly has a thing for her. 

 

Then she meets Snow, a Vietnamese-American woman, who is stunning and confident, and also a bit daft. They bond over the course of the evening, in part over how their darker bodies are fetishized by men, and which ends up involving both holy water and cocaine - it’s a weird story.  

 

In any event, Trinity has to decide whether to put in the work with her husband, or chase a new experience. 

 

“Necessary Bodies”

 

Hey, so many stories about women with ambivalence! Billie has found herself pregnant. Her partner is supportive, and she is on the fence as to whether to keep the pregnancy or terminate. 

 

In part, this is driven by her narcissistic mother, who is turning 50. She wants an elaborate party. She wants a grandchild. She wants to be the center of attention at all times. 

 

So Billie assumes that she herself will be an unfit mother. There is also the question of the effects a child will have on her life. Is she willing to put in the time to parent? 

 

Her younger sister Violet, who has that naivety and wisdom of the young, suggests Billie pretend that she wants the baby, and see how she feels. 

 

While the story isn’t entirely clear about what her decision is, Billie does come to understand her feelings a lot better. 

 

And Violet is completely correct: none of us are prepared for parenthood. Nobody ever has been. You figure it out as you go, more or less, sort of, and not all the way. Welcome to being human. 

 

“Thicker Than Water”

 

Another one with sexual assault warnings. 

 

Cecelia’s father has died, and his ashes need to be scattered across the country. She travels with her brother, Lucas, from whom he has been estranged since her father’s death, and Lucas’ white girlfriend, Shelby. 

 

As it becomes clear, there is a lot of backstory to this situation, none of which Shelby knows or understands. This is no shade on Shelby, who is actually a great character. She has the usual white girl blind spots at times, but she is good-hearted, and wins Cecelia over pretty well. 

 

But what do you do with a situation like this? Cecelia was sexually abused by her father, and Lucas never forgave him for it. Cecelia seems to have repressed most of the memories, but they come back. Shelby can’t know this, though, so I feel bad for her having to be in the middle of an emotional vomit. 

 

This story too has an ambiguous ending. Will Lucas and Cecelia reconcile? Will Cecelia retreat again into denial, or use her father’s death as a reason to process her own damage? 

 

One hopes so, because both siblings are decent people in a bad situation. And Cecelia and Shelby really should be friends. 

 

“Exotics”

 

This one is a very short vignette, a riff on the Explorers Club, a club that used to eat exotic - even endangered - animals. Neil Gaiman did his own version of this idea, with a very different direction.  

 

This version is from the collective point of view of the staff. And in this one, it is strongly implied that in the final dinner, the club members eat a human infant. 

 

So, trigger warning. It’s also really short. 

 

“An Almanac of Bones”

 

The final story is about a pre-teen girl, Sylvie, who likes to collect animal skulls and other bones. She lives with her grandmother, because her mother is a world traveler who can’t handle parenthood. 

 

Her grandmother is a real hippie sort, with “moon festivals” that often involve nudity and other more adult pursuits. 

 

When her mother shows up for one of these, Sylvie ends up discussing the issue of motherhood with her mother. It is an interesting and somewhat ambiguous conversation. Nothing is resolved, shall we say, but I think mother and daughter understand each other at least a little. 

 

I have a hard time identifying with the mother, because I have always been an involved parent, and can’t imagine just leaving a kid. But that is me, I guess - plenty of others do otherwise. 

 

Those are the stories. As I said, it’s a good book, well worth reading, but it does have some rough stuff in it, so be warned. 

 

The audiobook was narrated by Machelle Williams, who does a good job. No complaints.