tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4051826042602269061.post5769749427569374199..comments2024-03-25T09:01:20.997-07:00Comments on Diary of an Autodidact: Wisdom Versus Theonomy: An Example From My ExperienceDiary of an Autodidacthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11849157548643091986noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4051826042602269061.post-22832710583999108882018-09-12T10:10:43.331-07:002018-09-12T10:10:43.331-07:00Tim,
Funny story from 20+ years ago. I was tutori...Tim,<br /><br />Funny story from 20+ years ago. I was tutoring a Japanese international student at Fresno State. She asked me to do a survey for one of her classes, it turned out to be on gender norms and family structure. I refused to give her a definitive answer on any question.<br />Q—“How many children should a family have?”<br />A—How many do they want? How many can they afford? What health considerations does the woman have?<br />Q—Should the mother stay at home?<br />A—Does she want to stay at home? Can they afford for her to stay at home? Does she have a meaningful job that she enjoys?<br />Et. & etc.<br />No dogmatic answers that she could tally on her sheet. Poor kid, I was honest but not helpful. I laugh now, I hope she does too.<br /><br />PhyllisDr Phylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01783970354936609266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4051826042602269061.post-44715633907943311322018-08-24T11:54:48.813-07:002018-08-24T11:54:48.813-07:00Reminds me of the Geritol ad when I was a kid. Sta...Reminds me of the Geritol ad when I was a kid. Started with a guy saying, "My wife! I don't know how she does it. (list of household duties she performed). My wife -- I think I'll keep her." Where's that puking emoticon when you need it?Dana Carpenderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14755223481359798197noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4051826042602269061.post-70114440579911908072018-07-21T04:35:48.488-07:002018-07-21T04:35:48.488-07:00I believe there is a balance. Somewhere between pu...I believe there is a balance. Somewhere between pulling verses and phrases out of context to weaponize God's Word and abstracting away clear teachings to vague "principles" that justify anyone doing anything.<br />The Bible should make everyone uncomfortable and aware of our imperfection. Call us to throw ourselves on the mercy of God, and realize everyone is in the same situation.Jacobsen'shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11030283561948345114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4051826042602269061.post-62957976880302346662018-07-19T13:19:45.366-07:002018-07-19T13:19:45.366-07:00"(My one pushback here is that I wish stay-at..."(My one pushback here is that I wish stay-at-home moms were more honest about the fact that this option is only available to them because of their privilege.)"<br /><br />Small quibble. I don't think it's a privilege to stay home because you have no choice. I'm a stay at home mother because my unskilled labor would barely pay for transportation and childcare. I'd merely be working to pay someone to raise my child for me. It doesn't make financial sense. Sadly, fundamentalism did me no favors. Despite being intellectually capable, I wasn't educated for anything beyond motherhood and wifedom. So honestly, I'd love to work. My child has special needs and is a danged handful. Most days I'm exhausted and stressed and wish I could run away. But it's temporary. He'll be off to school soon and I can work again! How I look forward to that...<br /><br />"I think one of the more poisonous things about Evangelical/Fundamentalist subculture is an idol-worship of stay-at-home moms - and by implication, idol-worship of men with wealth...After years of having stay-at-home moms look down their noses at Amanda for having a career, say snarky and passive-aggressive things to her whenever her job comes up, and living with damaged family relationships because of this issue -" <br /><br />This Amanda would like to gently tell you the shoe doesn't fit so well on the other foot, either. I'm constantly left feeling like I'm not good enough because of my lack of career and education. They weren't presented to me as choice at all. I married at 20 like a good girl...and at 35 my educated career aunts have sadly remarked that my potential was completely wasted. Truly, I grieve that now. The problem is in shaming ANYONE for their choices. Stay home, go to work...the woman should choose for herself. She should have OPPORTUNITY and not be shuffled into one path or the other. You're a jerk if you go to work, and a lazy if you don't. So there's no winning for women. This is part of a larger conversation you could have about how women are frequently unable to win no matter what they do.AndaRaehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16549206526687825683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4051826042602269061.post-37099719581608737982018-07-02T18:03:22.756-07:002018-07-02T18:03:22.756-07:00I saw that "Vitamins" ad in here and imm...I saw that "Vitamins" ad in here and immediately wondered if her vitamins were actually Ritalin. <br /><br />Thanks for writing this...I am a stay-at-home parent right now in major part because my husband has a job that allows us to manage on one income and allows me to be at home with our daughter and to work on getting established as freelance editor. But we're both white, and he's lucky to have a good job. Part of our choice for me to stay home for now included the fact that childcare adds up very quickly, so I'd be dependent on finding a job that covered childcare plus more in order to make it work, but we still had more of a choice in the matter than a lot of families do. Annahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10479587232733503096noreply@blogger.com